Quote: Well, he left on an upbeat note. Told me he loved me, hugged me long and warmly. So maybe the 'beatings' don't sting so much anymore, I pray he does really understand now that I'm just trying to 'process' the pain so that I can be free of it.
t2,
how can I say this without possibly scaring you??? well first off I'll let you know that you are lucky to get flowers...heck I waited but eventually just sent them to myself (the 1-800-florist receptionist got a kick out of that one me sending myself flowers with a card "you are special")
in the begining of my h's return...he would take my stings...he would comfort me even when I would simply look sadly at our children, he would follow me and offer a hug of support...
for whatever reason...that stopped...he didn't leave again...but despite the fact that upon his first talking of comming home he said "I will live with this forever" he is expecting me to put it to bed.
most of the people here in piecing have not been met with this wishy wahsy wall...some have and have maganged to chissel their way through it..
all I am saying here is find the balance...realize now that unfortunatly most of the self healing may have to be done on your own...monitor how h reacts after such "talks" and minimize them if need be.
hoping you don't run into the same walls I have..but perhaps knowing they can come and accepting it early on might help you avoid them.
I only say this to you because you comment on being worried that he may
Quote: revert back to his old thinking which would be, "this crap is NEVER gonna end, she'll be asking me the same things from now till the day one of us is dead."
decide early on what you MUST know...what questions MUST have answers...ask them...accept the answer given and move on.
