Sunday is my W's birthday, and after some thought, I have decided to make it a nice one for her, although not to go overboard. It doesn't fit in with the overall "back off and focus on yourself" philosophy, but it's what I want to do, and we are, after all, still married. She is also going through a rough time with the news about her mothers cancer, so she needs a nice weekend right now.
We are going out for drinks and desserts tomorrow night (to ring in the birthday) with a few friends, and then I collaborated with one of her friends to have a bunch of her friends and their families meet us and surprise her for cake and ice cream on Sunday evening.
So nothing personal, nothing "just the two of us" and no pressure - although I am sure she will find out from her friends that I organized it all.
After a lot of thought, I also bought her birthday presents - a nice, but not over the top, pair of earrings "from me"(no diamonds ) and a jar of bath salts ( "from the boys" ). Again this is not part of the LRT philosophy, but it's who I am.
It is certainly a bit more than she did for my birthday - I got a balloon and a sweater "from the boys" - and later found longing essays that she wrote to OM on the same day - but although I thought about it, I don't have it in me to do the same thing to her (ie just a small present from "the boys" and nothing from me). Maybe it's not the best thing for our M in the long term, but then again, who knows...
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Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
) and a jar of bath salts ( "from the boys" ). Again this is not part of the LRT philosophy, but it's who I am.
