I just got myself current on your situation and just wanted to tell you I think you are handling your situation very well.
It is so hard to tell someone else how to handle all that each of us goes through in our individual circumstances. Some things I have learned along my own journey:
1. the sooner you really and truly detach, the better for you. 2. detaching is not an act one performs, it is a circumstance that results from shifting the focus from one's spouse to oneself - over time. 3. PMA is essential but it will ebb and flow - there will be good days and very bad days - remember that the good days will come again. 4. it is so important to let yourself feel all of your feelings as they come up. 5. letting go takes more than just saying the words, but it starts with just saying the words. 6. it is okay not to think about how to save you marriage every waking moment. 7. you have everything you need to thrive right inside of you. 8. this process is really, at its very core and in its very essence, all about saving yourself.
I know you may not believe me, I know I did not believe those who told me in the earlier days, things will get better.
No matter the outcome for your relationship, you will be fine. I can see it in your posts - you have all the strength you need.
