T2, Glad we could help you "see". You're doing great! I'm so happy for you. I'm in a new stage now, as my H is running around going down cheeseless tunnels! Heck I was running after him and got sick and tired of it. Now I'm going down another tunnel and even though it may mean H and I are not going in the same direction...I can't be there for him right now and I don't want to be caught in his miserable life. So I'm heading in another direction for now. I think we have to reach this point eventually; detaching is better for us, maybe not our M but it is something we ALL have to do at some point. You are past that and on a new journey; piecing your R with your H. I'll be here to help you along. I'm glad I have you as a friend here! Deb