Dude, I still think you just have to let more time pass. Just enjoy what you have and see what happens. If they are gonna come around, the one thing I can tell you is it is on their time schedule not ours. Also, YOU think it has been a year. She might only recognize that you have been trying for 4 months. EVERY guy, myself included seems to give himself more credit for his efforts, sometimes WAY more credit for his efforts, than their hurt spouses realize and/or recognize. Takes 4 or 6 months before they stop seeing red enough for them to see us change.
My wife recently made a comment about "is this how we build a relationship?" I was like, is that what we're doing? She gave a 16 year old style wellll, yeahhhhh. So go figure.
You and I both bitch a lot but I think we are actually pretty lucky.
Hang in there.
Down...I know we're lucky to have what we have...me especially. Jeez...my wife and I have done more together and had more fun than we have had in years. Isn't that crazy?
The time gets to me, and what you said is true with her. Her concept of how much time has passed for a lot of things is weird sometimes. I actually wonder if she would even remember when she dropped the bomb.
Plus, I always have to wonder if what I am doing is the right thing...it's all still pursuing...kind of stealth pursuing, I guess. But she is always been so receptive, it's hard to back off. So much of what I have done and do, is 180's for me...I was such a prick to her for so long, and she has told friends how "awesome" I was when we first got together.
Kind of like playing a slot machine...she keeps giving up and giving in just enough to keep me putting the quarters in and going for the jackpot...LOL.
That's actually pretty cool what your wife said...at least you know in her mind she is looking at it as building.
Most times it feels like that with my wife and I, but she always shoots it down with the "don't get your hopes up", or "you told me not to remind you where this was heading".
It's been 2 months now since I got one of them, so I might be due..then again...we also ML twice this week after nothing for a couple weeks or so...crazy stuff, but I will hang in there.
