Thank you both for your replies and support. I'll update my sig later when I get more time. And I did just spend sometime reading other people's threads.
One thing that I see that is confusing me is that alot of people are doing these 180's and things such as 'don't pursue' or things that seem to be about not really showing attention to the spouse and just focus on yourself. It seems so conterintuitive to me since I think not paying enough attention is partly why I'm in this spot right now. I can see this being effective maybe for spouses that are still feeling something in the marriage but are fed up about certain things, but what about cases where the spouse is sure she has no feelings left about you? I am so deathly afraid of anything I do backfiring right now.
