Yes, in the past, she wouldn't give in that night, but she might the next night and while I like ml any time, in those times I feel like she is just doing it to appease me, which is deflating.
Right, so on a deeper psychological level, you are being rewarded with sex for "acting like a big baby" as she put it. Even though it is table scraps sex, we accept instead of demanding better.
The first step to your recovery is forgiving your W for not being more sexually available to you. Before you say "wtf, why should I do that?", note that this is something you are doing for YOU, not for her. You don't even have to tell her. Read MWDs article on forgiveness if you haven't already, it really helped me to work on it (I still backslide btw and get angry and blame her, it is a process, not something that you do and it's done with).
Forgiveness helps to feel less hurt when getting rejected. The goal is to break that pattern of sulking after rejection, and instead take it in your stride and not let it affect how you treat her. She needs to learn she can reject you without affecting the next X number of days.
Originally Posted By: CharlieBrown
By the way, in honor of a different thread:
We might be in a SSM if we just finished a $60 bottle of Cab and my wife is sleeping with your D5 in your bed at 8:30....
CB
Wait, your bed? Who else here lets their kids sleep in their bed? Red flag...
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
