To Sara - yes - I'd be more than grateful for your input and observations... really I would... and any others...
In my previous existence I was GFI now GFI2 - cos of computers!
I really wasn't trying to antagonise people - but trying to point out the subtle difference between "telling" a person what they should do - which we can all too easily fall into versus observing/coaching...
Sara - I think we are all so very much caught up with the "want" to help and offer "help", and to help make things right that there are occasions when we just simply come out with "best friend" advice...
I was trying to say that maybe, just maybe - that's not what this board is all about... and that to do the advising, the "this is what I would do" is contrary to the DB principles...
Now you, like me, may well think that this can be set aside now and again - but it did seem to me that some folks on this board at that time were offering "advice" - which had an authority- but was yet had none...
For me - that is a very very questionable.
Folks can tell us about their experiences - fine...they can offer advise - fine - when they offer truisms - no... they cannot possibly know.
Sara - I think that the challenging of a POV is one of the useful things we can do...
I'm very sorry if i did it in an insensitive way - it was not at all intended as such...
I just rail at things which are laid down as truisms, when they might, or might not be true... Words are very powerful things...sentences, sentiments take on a force that sometimes are beyond the speaker's/writer's intention but yet are taken on as "real".
As I saw it - I was simply warning about that effect.
But - hey - ho! The weekend is here - and I hope you have a great weekend!
