This is all sort of fresh and the DR book becomes more like something you have to keep going back to. There is a lot of information, some you can use, some you can't. You aren't going dark if you are still talking. Maybe dim but not dark. My H still lives in the house and we have a sort of "working arrangment" so dim is about as dark as I can go myself.

Yes we all go through the whole "actor" thing. My H could win an academy award someitmes I think. None of this happened overnight whether you think that or not and none of it will change overnight either. Just take it slowly.

If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.