The problem with saying nothing is that I think it doesn't really deal with the issue and it just builds up a solid foundation of resentment. I think all of us have seen the effects of this because if that resentment is not dealt with, it is hard to accept when she does make a legit effort. I find myself saying, "yeah, but what about all those other times" in my mind, rather than accepting the gift being given to me. Plus, if I don't express my frustration, I find it carries over into other aspects of the marriage more. It is really a catch-22.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
