Given h works in the financial industry and the economy, I am not surprised that he lost his job and that was the reason I pushed so hard for the separation agreement/settlement to get done. I was sure that if he was going to lose his job it would be in the first quarter. He was stalling but could only stall for so long or risk arbitration where he may have had to pay a lot more. Even so I was still shocked and feel badly for him. He must be very scared right now.
At the same time I am very grateful that I was able to convince him that a lump sum was the way to go rather than monthly support so that we could cut all ties immediately. If it was monthly support I would have received only one month and now he would be able to apply for support from me!
I think you are right that this is not going to be a wake up call in any way but I suppose there are no wake up calls in MLC but rather they need to work their way through it.
I slept until my usual 4:00 a.m. and this time, the thought of him in bed with someone else was not my first thought when I awoke, but rather his new situation. Maybe there will be a silver lining to this for me. You're right about the relevations. Since our split they have come monthly, almost like clockwork, so my mind has not stopped racing for a long long time now. As they say, this too shall pass.
Mom recognizes us almost all the time and if she doesn't, she just pretends she know who we are. She remembers less and less of the recent past but remembers her childhood like it was yesterday. She remembers the house us kids grew up in and that's where she is going when she leaves the retirement home. So far we've been lucky and found her fairly quickly. I actually caught her once when I was on my way home from work.
It was raining here all morning and now the temperature is dropping to below freezing so I am camped out in front of the TV.
