I don't mind hijacks tbh. A hijack often is well on-topic and provides insight.
You said you know the point is not to look for or expect rewards, but do you truly believe it? Do you live it? If you continue to harbor resentment for not receiving paybacks for your efforts, you are possibly not there yet.
It is like one of those zen puzzles that is completely counter intuitive. In order to receive something, you must first completely let go of the expectation of receiving it.
For me it began with forgiveness. I had to forgive her for so many things in order to let go of the blame.
The reward for all this DBing is a better you. When it all comes down to it, you are not DBing her, you are DBing yourself.
Have you read "No More Mr Nice Guy" at all? If not, that's your next assignment.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
