Oh, wow, Kai, I'm really sorry you got a shock like that. Strangely enough, when I was typing yesterday how your H had started off with a good job, wife and house, I was thinking how badly he'd traded down for an OW & assisted housing, and wondering whether the job would be the next to go.... But I feel rather sorry for him too, even though he's created so much of his mess, because it's going to be another huge hit to his self-esteem. I'm voting on spinning awhile longer, if you're accepting votes. But the reality check should help to propel him a little further on the MLC journey.
Did you sleep all right? Those days of bombings/new revelations are the worst, with so many conflicting emotions churning through, and our minds racing. And what I hated most about them was they shoved the nebulous figure of the OW right in the forefront, when the last thing I wanted was to waste so much energy on her just because H was obsessed. And if your OW was interested in H's money, it looks like Karma is alive and well!
I'm also sorry to hear about your mom--how stressful for you and your siblings. Does she recognize you all still and remember the good times? My grandmother developed Alzheimer's and my mom used to visit her daily, and it took so much out of her, so I know what you mean that it would be better if her body released her before she gets a lot worse. 87 is pretty impressive, though--good genes in your family! By the sound of it, all/most of your siblings live close enough to spend time with her, so it's a blessing you can all share the burden.
So you've got today off; any plans? I hope Max is being particularly cute to cheer you up. Take care, Cyrena
