WAW Affair Confirmed - Advice?

[DCBHM]

I'm committing fully to the LRT. I'll update how it works. I'm a newbie to this site, but not a newbie to M, distancing, or A's.

I'm cutting off initiated conversation with WAW/WAW Family that doesn't have to do with the D(1).

I'm going to commit to the legal issue. If WAW approaches me, I'll make a decision then - but for now I'm going to begin taking away the comfort zone. So far, in brief periods of going 'dim' WAW has begun reaching out more to feel out where I'm at.

I'm going to GAL, continue school, take care of the kids, and start doing more fun things on the weekends.

The only urge I'm fighting right now is the urge to lay down an ultimatum... if our M ends like this, with an ongoing A that is being lied about, and her refusal to even 'try' for the M - I have every intention of being friendly, cordial, and nice in co-parenting - but I have no intention of ever pursuing even a friendship with W post-D. I can do better, my children deserve better.

I'm going to distance myself from the legal issue as well, allow my lawyers to do what is required while I back away.