Out of the Blocks! Into the Race!

[MichelleLT]

Well, she is nuts for thinking she'd get more...I think she's bluffing / manipulating.

I hate to say call her bluff cuz litigation gets expensive, but certainly don't cave to her unreasonable demands too much. You have to maintain separate households now, and that costs more, so she has to cut expenses too!

[Gypsy]

Hey FL..

Send it to your lawyer. She can ask for whatever she wants.. (all the while knowing settlement guidelines). That doesn't mean she'll get it. Talk to your lawyer about the least hassle way to settle. Letting her feel she 'wins' a little helps you close it and get on with your life.

She can make it very expensive, but that is going to hurt your combined net assets.

Houses are assets of wood, brick and mortar. Home is where the heart is.

*hugs*

[FLTC]

Thanks, all. I got a note from the paralegal at my attorney's office who STBX copied on everything. She responded to me:


FLTC,

I’m a lady so I won’t use the words that are coming to mind that would describe your wife right now…..
 
She has serious anger issues and perhaps needs to take a deep breath and take accountability for the situation for which she is currently in.


Hmmm? Will she EVER be reflective? (I know, I'm just saying)
 

[Matilda2]

FLTC, isn't it nice when someone else confirms that you are the sane one? Good luck getting through this phase.

[MichelleLT]

Glad the paralegal agrees you are the sane one LOL.

Ah well, just do what you gotta do for you and the kids. That is what is important!

[Gypsy]

Hey Fl..

It's nice that the paralegal validates you.

It doesn't do squat for you.

In divorce proceedings, drop the emotion... find a number that works... and get the hell out.

The longer it lasts the worst it gets on all levels for everyone.. you, your children, her.

Divorce is financially and emotionally devastating.

Think like a soldier... focus on your goal... make the mission a success, not a triumph.

*hugs*

[sandycay]

Hey Fl..



Think like a soldier... focus on your goal... make the mission a success, not a triumph.

*hugs*

YEA what she said! No target fixation!

[FLTC]

I will get out when I think it is appropriate. There's NO way I want to agree to giving her 50% of my salary, when she is working PART TIME managing her paramours law office and making 68K a year.

No way, unless my attorney tells me to. I don't think she gets to claim 50-60% of my income "because she feels that she needs it". Not when my son sleeps with me and my daughter 16 has to sleep on a pull-out sofa. NFW! If she has to sell the house, so be it. I offered her the EXACT figures that the mediator suggested; alimony AND child support. She has a college degree and can get a full time job.

I think if she thinks that she will come upon some windfall profit by going to court, she is mistaken.

[Gypsy]

FL..

I wouldn't agree to that either...

It's seeing what the traditional guidelines are, discussing with your lawyer what works.

Divorce brings huge changes, including losing the big house and lots of privileges that were taken for granted.

*hugs*

[cat03]

a part time that pays 68k? my full time doesnt pay 68k! she has gotten so used to get the boatloads of money you used to give her, thus the the ridiculous expectations.