Never say Never; it's worth the fight!

[Treese]

Di...

After alot of anxiety yesterday and talking to D16 whose BF said he didn't want to go if he was in H's car cause he would feel very awkward...I decided last night I would drive me and D16 to See the engagemant...it is about my D22, its her day, so rather than be on eggshells and D16 feeling awkward....I will drive....here's what happened this morning...wow...

H texted me early, a very long text about how he didn't know I was planning on playing in the euchre tournament, and with his leg he didn't want to move around much...had only planned on going up to see the proposal, stay for a little while and leave...said he texted D22 BF and he said that D22 knows he is still her father and that she would want him there....I don't feel comfortable with that but she may b telling BF something different....so fine....H should get to see it as he would regret not....H did say that he didn't want to go up if D22 didn't want him there....I just hope that D22 is okay with all of it....

Anyhow.....I picked up the phone and called H....I know but that text was ridiculous....I said, "wouldn't it have been easier to just call me"...WHY IN THE WORLD CAN'T HE JUST TALK TO ME! Geez !!!!
I was very calm and said, "I texted you yesterday and said I didn't know how much you knew so I was trying to tell you the events....then I explained what was going to happen...told him I didn't tell him 5 weeks ago because it wasn't my place to invite him....if D22's Bf wanted to that was up to them....
I told him I was going to go ahead and drive me, D16 and her boyfriend...he said, "ok"....he asked if it was because D16 didn't want to be in the car with him...so I told him YES! and then I explained why.....I had to....it was time...this is what I said...I told him that D16 texted him a month ago and has not heard from him....then he said she was bashing him and he didn't want to get into a texting war with her....I said, "you have to understand her right now, she is hurt",,he said, "i want to talk to her on the phone but she won't talk to me"..I said, you have to give her time...
Then I said.."you have to be there in the GOOD times & the BAD..you can't pick just the good. That we feel hurt and that he had no idea what goes on in the house...that I'm trying to keep everything together...

He said, "I know Treese"..I'm working alot too!...but does he, really know?

Anyway, I told him I always encourage the girls to talk to him...that no matter what he is there father...I told H I have ALWAYS been in his corner....

I told him he can't just play the 12 year old game and say he's not texting D cause she doesnt want to text him. That maybe he could just text her and tell her he was just thinking about her one day...

So, all in all it was an ok conversation...just matter of fact and no crying....

I told him I would catch up with him later about what time we're leaving for D22's. hung up..

10 minutes later D16 is in the office telling me she got a text from her dad....it said this..."saw your picture from the dance, you look beautiful, I miss you, and I love you always"Dad.

I just looked at her and smiled....

So, that's it....maybe everything I said wasn't right, maybe I backslid, but something touched his heart for him to text her....