I'm just having a hard time trying to think of things to do different in our M/R to help this situation.
and this IMO is why people fail....this is not a plan, it's not a game..it's not something you do to get your spouse back..this is about making you better..this is about you getting a life...
when you grasp this and live it and detach..then things with your M may just change..there is nothing you can do other than make yourself better..go back to what he feel in love with when you first met..
