Sorry you are here, but happy you found your way to this forum. This is a great place for support, perspective, a place to vent, and a place to get feedback when everything just seems so confusing and surreal. There are people here in exactly the same situation as you are (like me) and at various stages in the DB/DR process.
I would recommend that you read through a bunch of the threads on newcomers, and comment on ones that are similar to yours. Set up your "Watch Lists" (under "My Stuff" above) so you can track what's going on with people you connect with. You'll be surprised how much great information you can get reading other peoples stories, and feedback they get, because so many of us are living the same nightmare, even though it feels like you are all alone in the universe. By posting on other peoples threads, they will start to post on yours, and before you know it, you will have a support network.
You should also set up a signature at the bottom of your thread (in preferences) to just give a quick picture of your sitch - look at mine, and you can probably figure out the abbreviations, but if not, there is a thread in archives that explains them.
Hang in there, it's a long bumpy road, and not one for the faint of heart, but you will find that it is doable, and for many, it leads to a better self and a better relationship, whether it's with your W, your kids, your family or friends, or God.
Also, read this, or even better, bookmark and read it every day. It has great advice. Create a document of 'DB tips' and read it every day. It helps.
