I'm trying to catch up on your new posts in "piecing". I am really inspired by the first part of your new post:
Quote: I have been torn as to whether or not I belong here yet. But after visiting the Piecing forum this morning and reading all the posts, especially Sage's, I was inspired to begin looking at the "positives" as a way to move forward.
Sage said something about having to clear out the emotional cob webs in order to see the good things that were clearly happening in her R with her H.
I think that makes perfect sense especially since I've gotten to this point. I MUST stop keeping score of who's doing more, who's trying harder and step back and appreciate the progress being made and deal with the backslides as the come.
Especially the part about:
Quote: I MUST stop keeping score of who's doing more, who's trying harder and step back and appreciate the progress being made and deal with the backslides as the come.
It's really difficult feeling like the only one who is trying so hard to repair the marriage to a happy, healthy state. But I must remember that H is still going through some of the MLC stages and withdrawal from OW, so I need to just be ok with doing most of the work right now to convince H that he's made the right decision.
Maybe after H gets back from his hunting trip this weekend, I'll be well on the road to recovery from my surgery and can "act as if" I am very upbeat and "can't wait to get on with our happy lives" and smile and have some progresses made around our home while he's gone so that he ALWAYS comes home to a new surprise.
I will catch up with the remainder of the posts on your new thread as soon as I can. Being home after surgery is giving me the time to catch up. But I also need to do a few things around my house, so I'll catch up in between my household chores.
I'm so happy that you have moved to "piecing" and I will think about starting a new post here as well. But first, I'd like to read some posts and decide on a new thread name.
Thanks for starting your new post off with such a great approach! I am now ok with doing most of the work and not expecting H to be ready to do his part just yet.
