Regrets, you can't convince them of anything right now. So don't even try and do that one. Your H will find every reason not to agree with you, whether it is really how he feels or not, but it will just make you feel worse.
There are times this will consume your thoughts, it is one of the hardest things to do to derail your thinking. 1hope likes to put a rubber band around her wrist and flick it every time her thinking goes to negative thoughts. It does work.
But there are times you can't help it, I still do that too, and you are normal for thinking that ways.
I have felt like H is having people telling him that he is better off without me, even though I do know that he is also being told that he is an idiot for doing what he is doing. My H will also admit that he knows he is an idiot. You have to realize that they are thinking about you even when you don't think they are. We don't know what is going on in their heads and they don't understand it either.
You will make it, it doesn't feel like it at times, and you will have days when it feels like the world is crumbling around you, but you will be OK. It just takes time, and like the song says Time is on Your Side!
