Right now he isn't seeing the positive stuff and you probably do feel like he hates you. I knew my H didn't when we were talking and one day he said "You are a good person and you do try to help everyone." And there have actually been a few othe things that let me know he doens't hate me. Feels kinda wierd after a lot of years of him never really saying anything like that at all.
This is a dialogue on these boards. And yes, you will want to tell him, but please don't. The time will come when you can, or when you just blow, but it is not now. You have no idea how badly I wanted to tell my H that it was time for him to "get his head out of his a** and get back to real life" but I didn't. Well not for months. This place help me not do that. I hope you are reading and trying to get out of your head. That is really where you have to start.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
