I wonder if your H is ashamed that people is finding out and talking about him. I think he might be, that's why he wants to leave and not face the music. It's good because he is suffering the consequences but I hope he sticks it out for another 6 months, for your sake and the kids' sake.

Me:39
H:40
S:9
D:7
First Bomb ONS:June 07
Second Bomb OW: March 08
Separated: March 08
M:15 yrs
T:18 yrs
H deep into A with OW
Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09

'Yes, I can.'