Maybe I should be in piecing part 6?

[Hope4us]

Thanks Kat. I know most people on here will disagree with what I'm doing, but I have to do this for myself. And at this point I don't really have a whole lot of options if we would split up now, so I've decided to just act "as if" things are going to make it, let her drive our interaction and then when I know more about this transfer, deal with it then.

So, I booked the trip to Fla in May. Go ahead and 2x4 me. Many reasons I did it and I understand everyone's frustrations with me, but it helps me in setting a goal when I know I've got something like this planned.

Now I do have one question on stragety that I'd like everyone's advise.

Yesterday W was in another one of her distant moods. Pretty quiet and it was weird because she wouldn't make eye contact with me. I was out of town for a meeting Wed night and Thurs morning so on my way back home, I sent her a TM and said "just wondered how your day was going. On my way home". No response. And that was just kind of the way the night was. Just really distant and no eye contact.

So I started thinking. That was a big mistake, but I did. W told me she was going out to lunch with another Admin yesterday. And your mind wanders. Was she really at lunch with the Admin or did she go have lunch with another guy and was lying to me about it and that's why she was distant and wouldn't make eye contact with me?

I have a way I could confirm whether she was at lunch with this other lady or not. I have a meeting today with some of the guys this other lady is the Admin for. I could very easily stick my head in her office and introduce myself and just mention that W told me they had lunch yesterday and I just wanted to introduce myself and then see what her reaction is.

Cause if W's lying to me about that, then I'm done. I will not accept any more lies.

Good idea or bad idea? It would be good to ease my fears and to figure out if I'm being played here. It would be bad if W was in fact at lunch with her and word gets back to W and she thinks I'm checking up on her. Not sure if I care or not whether W finds out I'm checking up on her, but seeing as how it's been almost a year since she told me she was NC with OM and she still hasn't said she's willing to try to make our marriage work, I don't think it's too bad of a thing to verify stuff.

What's everyone think?