Regrets, although many might think the spiritual world and online tarot and stuff is a little off, I happen to think if it is done with a true and honest advisor, not someone out to take your money, that it can be very helpful and to be honest, one of the quickest ways to release a lot of negative stuff. Even stuff from the past. It will not give you all of the answers or tell you exactly what to do but it can help to give you a sense of peace and hope. Did you do a live reading or one of the computerized ones?
The other, Saffie, I don't know why she would feel that way, but i will share that I can understand it completly. I imagine my H out there just telling eveyrone what a nut case I am. Simply because he said a bunch of stuff to me and I don't know maybe it is my mistrust of people in general but I could see his friends and family cheering him on when I got along with all of them and supposedly they thought I was wonderful. So it may just be her negative self talking right now.
I too am curious what she will say. Regrets I'm glad he shared a little with you. We all have issues with certain things and I don't know what your issues with his first M were, maybe you will share them here, but that is probably not all of it. I will say too, even though we think that they are not considering us at all, they are. Deep inside somewhere. Do not be surprised if there are more moments like this mixed in with a whole bunch of moments where you just feel like he hates you because he isn't telling you anything. One of the best things you can do right now and throughout this is DO NOT initiate Relationship talks. Try to keep things for counseling while you are going. If you start them, you may hear things you don't want to or things you aren't sure he really means because he may feel like he just has to give you some sort of answer. If he initates them, try to keep your part to just validating at least for now.
You can't talk him into changing his mind. He will only do that when/if he is ready.
You can't convince him he is wrong in his actions or thinking.
You have to just listen and pick out what sounds like the REAL stuff and know that alot more will be learned by watching his behavior and listening when he does share than by trying to force it.
MT35-her story is one of patience and validation. If you need to learn how to do that, read her story. I will tell you that my H, came up with excuse after excuse and reason after reason. Which I believe he believed but were not really at the bottom. Over many months, he has said stuff, usually in just one or two sentences and then nothing else. That make way more sense than any of his explanations. I can see what is going on with him when he comes out with these little things.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
