Hey Al

Thank you for your thoughtful post.

I see what you mean about texts and emails but now I think we have a good combination of the two. That was so helpful about what you said about Jody (thank you!! \:\) ). You are right and I think that is why I was wondering. I suppose a friend would be there for another without expectation or be hurt and rejected if the offer wasn't taken up. I need to make sure I am in that place if I do extend.That is a really good idea about showing concern for his family as this was an issue for me at the end of the marriage as they were very interfering and I had started to resent them.

The forms... yes they are the next 'business' that we need to discuss. Hmmmm, it will be a difficult one!

With regard to DBing, yes I am - I prefer the me when I am DBing and it seems to work with h. Yes, I do seem to still care. I don't miss him on the whole (although that last meeting for some reason did affect me?!) and I don't fancy him but at the same time I still care. At the moment I don't want to be just friends but I think we have to go there for there to be more and I have worked way too hard to get to the stage we are to give up now. If we achieve friendship and it stays that way and I am happy with that then that is a great achievement.

Nothing has happened with the Valentine's guy... however I did go out again with the guy I went for a walk with. He took me out for a really expensive meal in London (next time he has promised Gordon Ramsey's!!) and cocktails and we had a nice time. At one point we even had an argument over evolution bizarrely but I think it seemed to make me more attractive to him that I could hold my own. It was very funny!

M- May 2006
D - Aug 2010
Now travelling the world