Al, during the MC exercises, we had to write down what we are afraid of in relation to our spouse. 95% of his fears were about me handling the aftermath of his choices and the way I would do it. The other 1% was not having a good sexual life (I have GOT to laugh about this one but...). He never mentioned all the things he accused me of being :selfish, mean, not a good person etc etc... It's like, all of the sudden, I am a cool wife to have but he is not sure I can forgive and forget the way HE wants me to, meaning without him lifting a finger... I am not that good of a Christian, I confess... K
