On a lighter note, I saw D(1) at her daycare this morning, she was sitting on the floor playing with toys. I sat down across from her and she looked up and grinned. She tossed down what she was playing with and crawled over to me and picked herself up and said "da da" so this was a positive and bright moment on the day.
I just hate that my W rushed into an adversarial situation.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."