Devestated

[SoCo]

Thanks for the replies, Sandi. I agree about the part that he wants his cake and eat it too. He wants his freedom, but he wants me to cook for him and all the other stuff. I would say MLC, because a big thing that he's mad about and started acting strangely about is that he wanted to quit his salaried job and open his own buisness. In this economy I said that I didn't think that was a good idea. Our kids need a roof over their head and food on the table. However, he's only 33! I think he thinks that the grass is greener on the other side and blames me for not letting him "live his dream" of opening the business. We have to be practical, we can't just go off on a whim when we have two kids to support.

I'm also highly suspicious that he has met someone and of course thinks she is great. Who isn't great with no history, stress, arguments, or responsibilities? I'm sure if that is the case it will wear off after a while. I have no doubt that after he is in his own place for a couple of months and misses everything that I do, and the kids, he will want to come back. I'm not sure my door will be open at that point... I guess if it's an OW she could do all of those things for him, but he most definitely has faults, and not everyone would have put up with as much as I did.

Also, I want to know this. Is it normal for a guy not to at least call his kids every day? I could not go 3 or 4 days without speaking to my kids. Since I stopped contacting him, he has not called me one time to talk to the kids. It has been since Monday, and tomorrow is Friday. He was a good dad when we were together, so I'm confused by this. I sent him a tm that was strictly to the point. It said Reminder: baseball practice at 5:00. He tm's back with I'm working like always. WTH? I sent back, just wanted to keep you informed. He sent back thank you. It's not for you, buddy, it's for your son! I of course didn't say that. Ugggg... Why would a guy not at least call to talk to his kids? He's going to play poker with the guys Friday night after work, supposedly. Why not come see your kids instead? I really would like a male perspective on this.