leaving the bank now. Just opened a new accout. One more step to independance. Hurts like heck. But I am showing my strength talking to new people. Taking charge of my life with out her. Not sure how she is going to react but I will deal with it with my new found strength.
The key is doing for you and not worrying about how she will react. Do it regardless of her reaction. That is what worked for me. When you start showing that you don't care anymore and start doing for yourself regardless of her reactions, this will get them to notice you - a change from your regular routine. Hence the term "180", do the opposite of what you used to do.
