Thanks Newgal. I think most of the spouses of people on this board would agree with your H. And as I remember the subject seemed to come up at each Retrouvaille Post session. Some spouses continued to argue that love was a feeling that one either had or didn't have and it couldn't be willed up by a decision. But those people did keep coming back, so I am hopeful for them. At least they were discussing it.
And Hope, you bring up a good point. Crossing the line. Is it love that makes us do it, or lust? That's a just as important question, what is the difference between love and lust? Surely, love takes some time to grow, like the Little Prince caring for his rose and his sheep. I think it is not love but lust that pushes people over the line. That is why thinking about these issues is important. What a mess this world would be if we all acted on impulse all the time!
