Slowly but surely - detach and 180

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As long as its hate - its an emotion. Much better than indifference !!!! Be thankful for small mercys

I was just thinking about that this morning at the Dr Office. I read somewhere about that and that as long as their is anger there is still feeling and there is a chance. Or something like that. I am going to hold onto that thought. I see her anger getting worse the last week or so. Maybe that is a good thing and not a bad thing. I know that their anger is partly to help themselves justify their actions to themselves. If I am the bad guy then she is right to do what she is doing. She had to keep finding things to stay mad at me about. I am trying very hard not to add any more fuel to her fire on that.

I found one thing to do nice for her. She got mad the other night that her 2 favorite mechanical pencils wouldn't work and after spending some time trying to fix them, she threw them away. I pulled them out of the trash and fixed them. I am going to leave them for her on her desk to find. I am wondering if I should leave a note or just leave them with no explanation. I was also thinking that I would wait until a day that we hadn't had any bad interaction so she will be more receptive to a nice gesture.