I think for some people love is a decision and for some people love is a feeling. For me, it is definitely a decision and feeling, for my H, it is definitely a feeling only right now. Love is different things to different people, based on their life experiences, I think.
If you are asking, SHOULD it be a decision, then I would have to say, again, some people would think yes and some people would think no. At this point in his life, my H would not think love should be a decision, that it should be a feeling and it should just come.
