I know my husband is in to me sexually. He made a comment the other day that the sex is great, it is the easy part. After having sex, he will ask if I am ok, when clearly he isn't. He can't disconnect himself like he wants to. He likes the benefits and comfort of home, but likes the "freedom" he is being offered by her.
So many life changing things happened before we got married and then soon after. I think he just snapped, but the hard part for me to accept is that I can't get him to snap back. The OW is now in there complicating things. He has completely alienated all of his friends during this time and only talks to her about what is going on.
I appreciate the comment about me being strong. I have been a wreck and this weekend was the worst...hence my posting. Since then, I have done some serious thinking/meditation and have started making a list of what I want in my life and where I see myself going. I have also made a list of places that I can go to "hide" for a while when he gets in his moods. It helps. You and everyone else here help.
