Great stuff pearl. Good night out, bit of networking at the end and cheap overnight parking. Aint it great when things start coming together. It must be Rock Star's influence on your life.
Well, xBF said he's going to come by tonight to get furniture and probably next Tuesday also. There's not that much stuff left, what is taking so long?? I won't be here either time so I guess it doesn't really matter.
Ok, I have to get stuff done before going on my trip. I'll be back here Tuesday. Hope everyone has a great GAL weekend!
And PS, it's JD's birthday on Saturday.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Just popping in for a second, still in MSP and will be back later tonight to catch up with everyone. I bet that's going to take a while!
Got a text from xBF just as I was logging in here.
He read the note I left for the housesitter and/or talked to his best friend because he knows where I am. The text referred to an old inside joke and a flirty text I sent him when he was here in Jan before I decided I was done.
I just laughed. Really? He thinks he can respond like that now? Sigh. He just doesn't get that it's over.
Talked to best friend's wife A for a while and spent the evening with them and my goddaughter. Will give all the details later tonight but basically it boils down to whether or not I am ok with just ignoring the fact that they are forever linked to xBF and not talk about him or us.
Gotta hit the shower and pack. Hope you all had good weekends, looking forward to reading about them later.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
{{{Pearl}}} glad you checked in for a few, amazing how their brains work sometimes isn't it?? (or don't work as the case may be LOLOL)!! Hope you have a great trip back
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Hiya - darn you for outing the fact that I'm getting older. I really don't feel nearly as old as I am - it feels like those birthdays are someone else, and I'm just laughing as they get older, and I stay young and handsome.
Oh well, reality will set in - it is sort of funny, stuff like the random texts.
Glad to see you are out having fun! I can't wait til vacation, and getting burnt to a crisp in a couple of months!
Hey JD, I didn't tell them how old you are! Just remember, I think we're all older than you! And you look great so relax.
Thanks for the safe travels wishes. Funny story, when I got to the airport I found out my flight was cancelled. Grrr. And of course the line at ticketing was huge and not moving. So I just went through security to the gate and waited to be rebooked there. I was originally supposed to fly through Milwaukee but ended up being put on a direct flight home that left an hour later (which gave me time for lunch) and arrived 1.5 hours earlier!
So, I need to own up to something I did...nothing really bad. I knew xBF was coming to get things the day I left. He had asked before about taking the bedroom tv so I said fine. I just happened to leave a book out on my nightstand where I keep the remote - How to Tickle His Pickle. Now I did buy this book when we were still together and it was for his benefit, but he doesn't know this. Maybe it will get him thinking it's for someone else, maybe it was what prompted his flirty text this morning. Who knows? I am a little ashamed to admit that I still want him to crawl and beg with no intention of taking him back.
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If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Got stuck in Milwaukee overnight so missed playing with goddaughter during the day. I ended up taking the train into downtown and riding the bus home with xBF's best friend's wife A. We had time for a long chat before the bus arrived so I caught her up on the basics: kicked him out, moving on with my life, his pathetic email. A said she's sorry we couldn't work things out but feels like he's responsible. Uh, yep. A told me that xBF complained to best friend S that I'm not even talking to him now. Not sure if this was before of after I kicked him out, but I did explain to him in that convo that the way he was treating me was not acceptable and that if any of my girlfriends treated me with the same level of disrespect I would quickly end that friendship. So no, I'm not talking to him. What is there to say?
Spent the evening playing with goddaughter, had dinner, then hung out with S and A. It was fine, only a couple references to xBF. So I think things could be ok with them if I want to continue friendships with them but I would need to be ok with anything and everything I said and did with them being conveyed to xBF. And I don't know if I can live with that and knowing that S would not and did not confront xBF about cheating being wrong.
Stayed with my friend K and her family for the weekend. We've known each other since first grade so there's a long history between us. This is her second marriage so she has been one of my sounding boards because she's come through a bad R and ended up much happier on the other side.
We talked a lot. She's good for giving the other perspective because she's the one who ended her first M. On the one hand she's very supportive of my decision to accept xBF's assertions that we are very different people and would be better off finding partners who are more similar to each of us. On the other hand she was encouraging me to give him the opportunity to show that he's sorry through actions. Her point is that he's further along the journey and that I'm at the point now where he was when he started the A. I am appreciating attention from other men and feeling good about myself. Perhaps I will get to the same point later where I will want to work on the R with xBF.
So I thanked her for talking and listening but said it's too little too late. I just don't have any feelings for him anymore. I hurt so bad at first, but now there's just no feeling left.
Other than that we just hung out with her H and kids. We ate too much, went shopping, and got our teeth whitened! Fun times.
Now I'm home, catching up on everyone and everything, and waiting to see if xBF is coming over tomorrow to pick up the last of his things.
Whew! Sorry that was so long.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
