Hey Upside!
Your h sounds alot like mine, ... not happy with themselves, not feeling the control that they want. At least they have realized that they are married to wonderful women that they want to keep in their lives!

me- 42
H- 51
married 11 years
D-9, S-9, D-3

bomb 4/07
h moved out 8/07
h moved back 4/08