WAH2

[Ready2Change]

Does that explain things better?

Much better thanks.

My 2 cents:

You can only control YOUR thoughts, words and actions. Set your intentions on continually working on YOU. Set your intentions on improving the R with H.

I believe that M is a commitment

This is a very good belief. Would you mind listing out your vows here?

Just because it doesn't go the way I want it to go, or things change, or a serious problem is outted, and I experience unhappiness, does not mean I can give up and walk away.

Good thought process.

Whatever needs to be done to work things through is the job of a M.

Right now patience,forgiveness,understanding....

I don't think people respect the idea of a long term commitment because look at the D rate in this country. Look at people's behavior and the reasons they end M.

Everyone is allowed to believe what they want. I choose my beliefs. You choose yours.....

I came here looking for support to go through whatever I need to do in order to be successful in maintaining the M.

Then that is what you are going to get. Ignore the things you believe are not supportive.....

My H has serious problems, he refused help and put himself and others in danger and disrupted our household daily. So I asked for a separation to allow him time to accept his problems and need for help. He is doing that now. There is a long way to go yet.

Be patient and kind.....

I am lonely most of the time.

GAL - you can interact with other people while commited to M. I am no longer lonely. I enjoy other people. I enjoy my time alone.

I have doubts and am haunted by bad memories at times which when I talk about them seem to just make me feel worse.

The past is history, the future is a mystery, but the present is a gift. Stay in the present. Turning off the voice in my head was wonderful. It is a lier and could drive me crazy if I let it. I chose to enjoy RIGHT NOW.

I need to heal, but I feel more confused than any other emotion.

Accepting my life the way it is right now saw very helpful. I never dreamed that we would seperate and D, but that is how it is. That does not mean it will always be that way.....

I have a full life but don't feel complete without my H.

When you feel complete (and happy) without H, you will be healed.

But at the same time, I am afraid of being hurt, I am afraid that things will not get better, I don't trust him, and don't feel that he can be there for me. It's a full plate in such a short time.

HUGS You have full control of things getting better. Drop the rope. Love him unconditionally. Forgive him. Let go of the control.



Sorry you are going through all this, but things will be OK! Be very patient and forgiving and kind. These things will get YOU to a good place. They will help the R.