Well, the kids really seem to be ok. I think that they really get that they will still have both of us, and that we both love them. I'm sure there will be some bumps in the road for them, but they almosted acted like "of course we're ok, Dad, what's your problem?" S11 said that he was a little upset last night, but that he is fine. I still need to talk to them without W around, I'll get plenty of chance to do that tomorrow driving them to Flagstaff.
As far as last night goes, I really don't think W intended anything underhanded. I think that she wanted to make sure that she told the kids before she told her parents, and when her Dad asked her if she thought I could help out with the computer she didn't want to say, "I don't think so, we need to go home and tell the kids we are divorcing." I don't really know, since I wasn't there. I know she was worried about telling them, I expect she made the best decision she could at the time. I do think she could have, or should have done differently, we should have told them together. But, it seems to have worked out ok.
She did say this morning that she was waiting for the other shoe to drop. I wonder if the kids have enough friends with divorced parents that make it work that they are at least a little comfortable with it? I expect it probably helps that Mom didn't just pack up and leave one day, too. This is going to be a gradual process.
The bad news is that I think she wants the fridge.....
