Hi, back again, I'm gonna share some thoughts on the porn. I think porn is often way over-rated as far as its importance. It is only because it is sex and sex is such a big deal in our puritanical, patriarchally based western culter. If your husband was on a golf site how much would you care.
I love porn. My wife gets this. IF one is not getting enough from his/her spouse and wants to look at porn to fill the gap, personally I don't see it as that big of an issue. I would have a problem being told I couldn't look at porn. 99.9% of the time if my wife said, hey stop looking at the porn and come have sex with me instead, I'm right there. Plus sometimes maybe sometimes maybe someone just wants to think about something different. My wife once said, I get bored of looking at myself in the mirror, why wouldn't you get bored with me. I actually DON'T get bored of looking at her but she made a good point.
Now, a lot of those swingers sites require you set up a profile in order to look at the adds and pictures. Some sites only accept couples so they are not over-run by single men. Why swinger sites? I find those sites appealing because those are real people, who are doing what they are doing for pleasure. They are not peroxide blond bimbos making $90,000 a year to do what they do. He may not be looking to swing at all, or it could be a fantasy. Lots of guys think about their wives on those scenarios but the reality of it is too much. Looking at those sites lets you get close without actually engaging.
What is porn anyway where do you draw the line? I've heard some women gasp pretty orgasmically when they see Brad Pitt in Thelma and Louise. Is THAT porn? Where do you draw the line?
I might catch some flack for these opinions but really, the importance people put on porn is way too high. Women read those Fabio novels, is that porn? There are way bigger fish to fry than worrying about porn. Some might say days of our lives is porn. Where is the line drawn?
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