Thanks Phoenixdeux, yes, there are times I don't miss her cause I did so many of the household chores and the kids helped with that we don't notice W is gone. I do miss her (especially at night, still strange to sleep alone) but have been GALing and it’s been fun and I have been happy more often than not lately. It was very rough at the end of December and all through January but I believe I have grow a lot during February and am looking forward to S15 baseball season starting in middle of March. I have even been more productive at work the last 2 weeks and am looking forward to new responsibilities and projects which i would normally (in the past) not be so excited about.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
It has not been easy getting to this point where I am now, I continue to receive lots of support from this board, a support group which I joined and meets every other Friday, my therapist whom I meet with weekly, my incredible manager & co-workers (some know my sitch others do not but are still supportive), and of course, my kids, family and friends. I still have bad moments were I think why did this happen but I try to not dwell on those thoughts as they are not productive. I am re-reading DR and plan on all one of the coaches to see what else I can do for myself. I still have lots of growth left in me and want to continue with the changes I have already started!
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Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
Had good day yesterday with my C as he validated a lot of things I was doing and he likes the path I'm on now. We talk mostly about me and I told him things I want to work on and he said this is great. Then went home and cooked dinner for me and the kids, then logged into work for about an hour. Next, baked cookies for my support group meeting tonight and then about 8:30 my basement got water...not a lot but enough to cause everything to get wet...ugh Today the water is mostly gone and I will have to clean down there tomorrow.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
Well, my support group session tonight was great again! I'm so glad I found it. We discussed self-image and self-esteem issues and then everyone enjoyed my chocolate chip cookies
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
For my attorney I got recommendations. I specifially sought a good family law trial attorney.
So... why are you asking? Have you been served?
Unless you have a good financial reason, my personal recommendation would be to let her serve you first. In the meantime learn as much as possible about the divorce laws in your state so if you do get served you will come out okay.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
No I have not been served just wanted to be prepared in case she does file. Since W is not really talking to me I have no idea what she is thinking or if I should even believe anything she says. We talk about the kids and our jobs.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
