LBS need help and support #2

[smartcookie]

Song, you've got some great advice here. Was there something specific you were asking about ??

I usually start by asking the guys what their W always complained about. Start doing some of those things gradually & without a lot of fanfare. When the W starts to express anger, let her get it out. Anger is a specific size tank. It won't go on forever, but the more that's forced into the tank, the larger the explosion when it happens. If some of it can seep out each day, no explosion. make sense ?

You're reading a lot & that's good. Try to make a list of 3-5 things that you want to work on this month, put it on a 3x5 card in your car or wallet. That will help you stay focused.

do little nice things for her to help around the house & with the kids. Noticing that you're almost out of milk is a huge one to me. I'm CONSTANTLY running to the store for milk. I joked for a while that buying milk was foreplay to me. LOL

Observe what she's doing when she's in the house with you. Just make a mental observation, & then think to yourself "I sure appreciate her" the energy from those types of observations & thoughts will help her feel more comfortable around you. If you're putting off energy that says "holy [censored], she's leaving me" she'll want distance from that.