Que Sera, Sera - Whatever Will Be, Will Be

[Greek]

Sorry it has taken me so long to respond. You know...Life. So to your question about the process of separating and how to divide. I really took very little, just bare essential. I didn't want to get settled somewhere else. My separation for me was never about staying gone. It was more about taking a breath, licking wounds and regrouping.

And to your question about any benefit to the separation, it was that exactly - a time to catch our breath after a really terrible year; a time to heal a bit from the damage we did to each other in that year; and a chance for each of us to do real work on ourselves. My H REALLY worked on himself while I was out and thanks God, for it made all the difference in the world to our R. I don't believe he would have gone to such lengths if I would have stayed in the house saying the same things to him over and over again in the same way. When I moved out, I was saying the same things - just in a different way. So, yes...there was some benefit.