A lot of counsellors and a lot of people don't believe in a MLC and I guess unless they experience it, there is no convincing them. It's frustrating but I am starting to get used to it and have given up on IC.

How old are your kids and how do you feel they dealt with the changes in your h during his MLC?

It wasn't until my h was gone that I realized that he was having a MLC and we have not really spoken often since he left. When he told me about two weeks after he moved out, that he thinks he's having a MLC and I told him that I agreed, he immediately shut down any further conversation.

H was never a talker; introverted to the extreme. Last Spring I had him do the online Meyers-Briggs Personality Test and he came out an extrovert. When I told him that he was supposed to answer how he IS and not how he would LIKE to be, he got pissed.
A couple of weeks later we went to a cocktail party at our old neighbours (he insisted) and he stood beside me all night, occasionally running his hand up and down my back and didn't converse with anyone. When one guest asked us if we had kids, h replied "no." I thought that was pretty funny because he has a son from a very brief shotgun marriage when he was 20. He also paid a company in California $1,000 for three telephone conversations to sure his anxiety about having to update his co-workers and a few executives on what he has been working on. Extrovert indeed!

I've rarely called him and emailed him only when it was related to the house or the divorce, with a few regretable exceptions. When I emailed him when I discovered that he was living with someone because I was so shocked and upset, he sent me a nasty reply about me not loving him and him not loving me and never admitted that he was living with someone.

I've tried very hard to keep things business-like but admit sometimes I've asked him questions which gave him the opportunity to hurt me. Now that everything is settled we have no reason to ever contact each other again. So hard to believe that I will never speak with him again.

Yes, he is still living near me, as far as I know. I don't know anything about this woman or their relationship so I cannot give an opinion on why he has made these choices. He says he is really really happy so I guess I should believe him.

Yes the condo has a balcony so I will try to grow a few things.