Still super happy and ok, but got a bit of a bad day yesterday. Bored at work as not much to do and sitting waiting to find out if being made redundant and when from is starting to really do my head in !!!
Anyway, went to get my boys, S2 shattered as been dropping his lunchtime sleep and doesn't want to come with me. S6 thinks this is great so we can spend time together and yes, it is for that reason, but I don't see them enough as it is, but as he really didn't want to come and would need to be home in 2 hours for bed, I just gave him some big hugs and left it. Say I'll bring S6 home after a program he watches and about 7.45 to wish she replies, well, I'm going out at 7.30, the baby sitter will have to put S6 to bed and I'm like, no, it's ok, I'll do it obviously. So S6 and I went to a friends but she off to gym, so her D7 came with us to play for an hour. Took her home, me and S6 had dinner and my mums tells me, that STBX has apparently been bragging in the playground about her date with a bloke. So I just text, please use some sense and don't go bragging about dates etc when the boys are about and got no reply. We then did S6 homework (really enjoyed doing that with him), then going to watch a program but it wasn't on so he dcides he is tired and wants to go to bed. So I'm about to take him home and he says, mum went on a date with blah, so I sort of responded but changed subject quickly but couldn't believe she was letting him know what she was up to, especially as from what I can work out, it must be pretty fresh. I was fuming, but got myself together and took him home knowing she would stiull be in. He went to the loo, so I semi confronted her about it and she was like, well, I didn't tell him. I said, I didn't here from him tho but someone about 30 yards away in the school playground, you've got the biggest mouth going so obviously the kids are gonna hear and it's not on. She says, so you've got spies on me at school now, I said, WTF ??? Someone was miles away from you and heard it. I don't care, but it's not right that the boys hear about that. She responds with, hope your not going to spoil my date now ?. What ? How ?, by running out and telling him not to see me or whatever !!. I'm like, no love, I'm sure if he's half a brain he'll figure you out by himself soon enough. I got back, that's funny, so how come you were begging me to stay then last year ?. Because I was in shock I can only guess as 2 months later I couldn't believe my luck. Then S6 appeared and I got him in bed, did his story etc and were having a cuddle when he gets all teary eyed and says to me…Daddy, why can't you come and live here again ? It's not the same without you !!. So I repeated what we've always said, that mummy and daddy don't love each other anymore, but we still love you boys with all our hearts and that will never change. We just have to live at separate house now. He was still crying so I asked if he wanted mummy and he said yes, so I called her up and left them together. TBH, I needed to get out as I was welling up and not good for my son to see that. He broke my heart bless him. So glad I've got them this Sat night.
Anyway, I gave up smoking the day before and hadn't had one but after that episode just needed one so stops at the shops round the corner and bought a 10 pack and was sitting on a wall smoking it when she comes round the corner with OM, she is giving direction but hiding her face and I was laughing….Why go that way which goes past my mums house anyway ???? Silly mare. I was actually on the phone to MOT35 at the time and was having a chuckle about it with her….lol
I'm ok, it just really got me as it's brought the boys into it just cuase she has the biggest mouth. I couldn't care what she does anymore but it will affect them and that is bang out of line. She should think about that and if anything, I hope she realises that now. Also, why go bragging to the school mums anyway ? I mean, they can only think worse of her if anything….Fine tell ya close friends but random mums from school ?
BTW - All the above conversation was done calmly and without any emotion. MOT35 asked (again) how I felt about it all and inc the STBX going on a date as I'm sure she is convinced that if she snaps her fingers I'll go running back. I wont, not in a million now, I just like to be honest and up front with her.
