I know lots of people believe that he would have said something different, but you said what you did first, so he changed it. I don't believe that. That is similar to my husband when he used to say he would do nice things like clean the kitchen or bring me flowers, if I didn't remind him that it would be nice if he did them. I must have waited years on that one. In the 2 years since Retrouvaille he has started buying the flowers and doing nice things unasked sometimes, but it didn't happen before that. I see that as just another way to blame you for his failings.
