"Fill in the blanks" was my favourite exercise when I was learning English. It was very easy for me because I would speak out the sentence and by the sound of it I knew what was right or wrong. An example : M will ..... her husband a) divorce b) wait for c) kill (Ok, doesnt work here, but you get what I mean)
When talking to my H lately I realised he leaves the sentences "open". He says things like that: "We could go eat there but if you dont want to......" "I am in therapy at the moment....." "I am not coming back for the kids ..." "I love you even though...." "I know we should spend time together..." and his voice shows there is more after his last words but he never finishes...
I used to fill in the blanks for him. As a result I found myself here. Because even though sometimes/most of the times I was right, if the outcome wasnt the desired one, the blame would go back to the one actually expressing out loud the initial "action plan". I have changed that. This is one of the things that I have managed to change completely. But since I dont do that anymore, discussions die fast and issues are left open and hanging over our heads.
Lately with H, I am LISTENING, but cant hear anything. It is a very weird situation. Very awkward. I am sitting there, facing him, looking at his face and he will not complete his sentences. Just like kids do when they are afraid what they are saying may turn out the wrong thing. In some cases, I know I making it hard for him. But, I wcouldnt possibly fill in the blanks on such major issues as his thoughts about our Marriage/Relationship/Future/Reconcilliation Efforts etc etc. Of course these are the issues he finds the most difficult to talk about.
Anyway, I have some things to say about Bill's and GFIs posts, I will, a bit later. xxx K
