Rather than trying to make guesses regarding how you and your wife both feel about your state of masculinity (and what level would really 'light her fire'), I thought I'd invite you browse through Bagheera's Journey in rediscovering my own manliness and asserting it with regard to my relationship with my wife -- at HER prompting and encouragement -- and glean what might seem most applicable to you. The exchanges between DanceQueen, Strong&Alive, SillyOldBear, and myself are the better ones. This post on page 5 describes Part 2 of my breakthrough, and in a sense still represents some of the issues that I am still working on today. You also might want to look over my four 'models' for approaching a woman for sex post, as it is directly related to the topics in my regular thread.
Give me some feedback on all of this, and how it may (or may not) relate to you own situation.
Take care,
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
