Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[Thinker]

I've been on a business trip for the past 2 days - out of towns with all day meetings and dinners at night, etc. Having a pretty good time. In fact, I got to meet up with my best friend (who lives out of town) for dinner an a couple of beers this evening.

I've been avoiding calling my W, and she has not called me ... and then another bomb hit.

I found out a few minutes ago, by being on a family email list, that MIL's cancer has come back, seriously. My W found out yesterday, and has been upset, making plans to spend time with MIL, etc., but never called to tell me.

I called my W immediately to tell her how sorry I am to hear this and see if there is anything I can do.

Even with the state of our R, I am surprised that my W did not call me to tell me, or even tell me when I did talk to her briefly yesterday evening. When I called her, she acted surprised that I knew, and actually grilled me on how I found out, etc.

I am really sorry that she feels she has to deal with this alone.