Sorry things feel threatening. Use the time you have to motivate her to want to change things. That is how change process works - you have to get the person to feel some motivation to want the change, then provide the options for making such a change, then you work on change and modify as you go based on what works.
Hope you feel better soon - this cold is going around here too, I had it two weeks ago - haven't been sick in years. Guess M problems bring out the worse case scenario in our bodies.
How are the kids reacting things? What do you see them noticing?
