Advice Please...Con't #2

[Punktmann]

Ral, Jack wrote,

I did similar to Kerry once I figured out that her fling was going to continue. I actually kicked her out, split the money in the bank and opened up my own savings account.

Like he said, that's your choice.

I did the opposite, I let it go on for 3 years.

If I could do it over, I would do what Jack did. 100 times out of 100.

It's not easy to decide.

I hope there's not an A, but if there is, I'll just point out the most important thing about letting an A continue while allowing her to eat cake. It completely destroys the respect she has for you, and it'll really damage your self respect as well.

One can't love someone one doesn't respect. That's the foundation of friendship and love. Give this one some thought.

Your job is to get your stuff all in one bag right now, so she'll have a positive place to emotionally return to, and so that you'll be able to handle it if the outcome is less favorable. Anything that damages your self respect that much will only slow or stop that.

Like he said it's your choice. It has to be, cause no-one here can get a feel for your sit. as well as you can.

The S11 doesn't suffer as she takes care of him.

You do as well right?

I didn't realize I was that bad of a husband to her.

Do you really believe that? If you're here, I doubt it. Don't take on responsibilities for someone else's actions. I'm sure you made mistakes, we all did. Own your own problems and look after them. Leave the rest.



Best,

Punkt.