Hope, glad you are managing all the little details that life brings. You are a superwoman for doing so much for your D's and for yourself, keep it up! You are right that work would only be sympathetic for so long, they are a company and not your friend so keep an eye on your back, don't be the target.
I am so glad it sounds like your H is hit with the truth dart! That's fantastic news! What a way to take H out of lala land. Now, don't get your hopes up too high. Expect nothing! He is veer back and forth and back and forth. One minute depressed because he regrets the way his life has turned out, another minute ecstatic because he has found escape with A. But it's a first step out of the euphoria of A.
I know that you knew that life would not be simple for him if he left you but because he was in A, he completely ignored all the signs. Now that life is settling down a little, he is beginning to have to deal with all the details that was left in the corner of the room. Guess what, he still has to deal with life whether he is with you, with OW, or out on his own. No use pretending it's not there. He is learning that lesson and you are stepping back to let him learn it, good for you! You are learning that you don't NEED to rub it in his face to get him to see the truth of his sitch. You are learning fast, give yourself a pat on the back!
Hope, keep being there for your D's, try to get some enjoyment out of your life. Do you have any hobbies? Any social outlets? Give yourself an assignment to have fun this weekend and not think about H or your R at all for an hour or two. Tell me about what you plan to do and then we'll see if you could do it. Give yourself a mini-emotional vacation. Let me know :-)
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
